I think that violence in relationships is something that nobody really talks about or broadcasts for obvious reasons. If you tell anyone, you make you and your partner look fucking insane, violent, and people will encourage you to break up for the most part. Men in particular are especially viewed as assholes for hitting their partner. Trigger warning: this is a dark, slightly disturbing topic.
It’s becoming a more and more popularized subject in the media, at least in my opinion. Harley Quinn and the Joker. Another example, Gone Girl. We were all on Amy’s side when we saw Nick throw her to the floor and act abusive to her. But we learn more and more about the real story, and things change.
What about in real life? The lines get fuzzy, blurred. What if I hit him first, many times? What if he or I were very drunk? What if we barely remember it? Plenty of aspects come into play. Does it mean you’re in a horrible relationship? Or was it just an honest mistake that will never happen again?
My boyfriend tried to choke me out the other night in a really drunken fight, which is what inspired me to write this article. I actually thought I was going to die. I’m no stranger to pissing people off, however. I seem to cause violent reactions in plenty of people. Ex-friends, my father, my sister, my ex boyfriend, etc. So it wasn’t anything too new. But it certainly was something surprising. He said he’d never done that to a girlfriend before and for some reason, I truly believe him.
It’s thrown me for something of a loop and is causing me to think hard about this topic. Does anyone have any thoughts on or experience this topic? Do you believe the second they lay a hand on you in anger that that should be it?